People often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning. — Mohandas Gandhi
When coaching my clients, I often hear statements like: I can’t do that, I am not good at that.
As a coach, I jump at things like that.
Really? Says who? What makes you say that? Who has told you that? Have you tried it?
We all have beliefs about ourselves. These come from our parents, friends, school, colleagues, experiences. Each time we experience a situation, we register it on our hard drive. And if certain things like ‘you’re just not so good with numbers’ are repeated over and over again, they become ingrained in us, they become part of us and we believe them.
We use these beliefs to keep us safe. ‘I will not touch numbers, so I don’t have to hear the reproach again that I am not good at it’.’
Whether it’s true or not that you are not good with numbers, these belief limit you. They turn into excuses, they prevent us from doing things in that area.
And that may make sense when you’re in real danger. A kid who has burned his finger once will be hesitant to touch the stove again.
But what is the real danger for a kid who has been told he’s got two left feet to try himself at gym, football, figure skating?
Do you believe you’re not creative? Not good-looking? Do you believe you’re shy? Clumsy?
Who said that? How many times did they actually say that?
Often it is enough for us to hear a harsh judgement once from a loved on to make us believe it. Ah, the power of words. Ah, the damage they can do.
Words can form (or deform) your self esteem.
Words become things.
Thoughts become things.
Affirmations take over where other people should be left behind.
- They are positive messages.
- They uplift and build you.
- They are a tool.
- With meaning to YOU
- Words YOU use
- Clear, precise
- You need to be able to remember them
- Don’t say `I´m not shy´. Instead say ´I´m confident´.
- Focus on what you want
- Use present tense (ex. don’t say ´I will be rich´, say ´I AM rich´)
- I am loved
- I am clear
- I am creative
- I am….
- My body knows what to do
- I love to move my body and exercise
- I have enough time and space to do what I want to do
- I easily create wealth
- I am a star and everybody wants me
- I am an admired professional
- People hire me for my professionalism
Now go ahead and write a few affirmations for yourself. Take a few post it notes and write down what you know to be true deep down.
Then stick them on your bathroom mirror, your car dashboard or your pc at work.
Next week you will receive some more tips about how to get rid of limiting beliefs.