You will be a failure, until you impress the subconscious with the conviction you are a success. This is done by making an affirmation which ‘clicks.’
— Florence Scovel Shinn
Last week I made you look at your limiting beliefs and got you to write down a list of your affirmations. The secret is to practice them whenever you can, to integrate them in your daily life.
Here are a few examples of how to do that.
- Create affirmations
You have written a few last week. Now get some index cards and write 20 more (one on each card). Write them about every single aspect of your life, in present tense.
- Flip through the index cards once or twice a day (or when you feel low and need to be picked up)
- Post affirmations all over your house (bathroom mirror, kitchen sink…) where you are likely to see them daily.
- Post an affirmation in your car that keeps you from getting stressed at a red light or behind a slow driver.
- Carry affirmations with you (in your wallet, in your coat pocket, in your office…)
- Choose one affirmation and make it your mantra. Mine is simply ‘Breathe. Smile. I am happy”
- Affirmation alert.
Set your cell phone to ring every half hour or every hour with your mantra or another affirmation. It will remind you throughout the day to stay present and focus your thoughts.
- Positive reading.
Make sure you read something positive or funny in the morning (no tuning in to the horrible daily news). Read it out loud.
- Look up and smile.
They are both techniques that shift you out of unhappiness and anxiety.
- Ask ‘is this true?’.
In Byron Katie’s book ‘The Work’, the first step is to ask ‘Is this true?’. It is very useful when insecure, overwhelm or drama queen situations happen.
- Positive reading.
Reading or listening to positive (audio)books or podcasts is very uplifting. So get some. Now.
Put a few minutes in each day to just sit and meditate. No need to spend 20 minutes or sit like Buddha for hours. A few minutes in the morning and a few in the evening will do.
Write down 5 things you are grateful for each day. Every evening when you put your kids to bed, ask them what the most wonderful thing of the day was. Finish your day on a positive note. You’ll sleep better. And so much more.
Attend workshops, retreats, trainings that teach this. You will learn and also get to meet like-minded people.
- Positive people.
Surround yourself with positive friends and people. They will give you encouragement and support. It’s hard to do it all on your own. And even harder around people that are negative, cynical, doubting.
Do what you like. Sounds logic and easy. But it’s not. We accept invitations and things that we don’t really like, that don’t offer us delight and joy. Go add more things in your life that make you happy. Decline things you know you will hate afterwards.
Schedule self care in. Regularly. Make appointments for the hairdresser every … (fill in the blank). Schedule a massage every month or two for the next year. Put your hour in the gym in your agenda so no one can book you for a meeting. We schedule every thing else in life but forget to make time for the essential, our well-being.